I feel mothers have a duty to teach their young daughters a sense of modisty when it comes to what is allowed in under garments.
March 3rd, 2010
I feel mothers have a duty to teach their young daughters a sense of modisty when it comes to what is allowed in under garments.
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No, u r not.
Modesty is a very good thing for women.
And even better for Young females.
Get her started off on the right track.
It is ur responsibility, to teach and train ur dghtr., the way for her to walk*.
I have 2 dghtr’s., and as a guide to what was to short to wear, (skirt/shorts/dress etc..) they stand up, arms @ the side, hands down, if its shorter then where fingers r …its to short to wear. Gotta go past the fingers. Don’t think I never saw the “slouch” move, trying to get the arms, longer. It’s actually a funny sight. Watching the girls trying to scrunch down. Tho’ I never told them that, @ the time. They’re grown now.
After all she is only 13, just now, a teenager.
A friend of mine, single dad, 2 teenage girls, he asked me about this. I told him the hand/finger guideline. He laughed, said, its actually a really good way of being consistent. And the chilld can’t come back saying ur being unfair. He said cuz his girls always come back w/…it’s what er’body’s wearing / doing/ or ur to old/or u don’t care how I look ur my dad
….along that thread u know? Although, I did tell him to watch for the slouching/ scrunching down move.
* to be as a person, having respect for herself.
edit: I read some of the other ansers here…
Yikes U don’t want a 13 yr old to be or feel sexy?!
Do u, I think not, by ur Q.
And I agree w/ NotScarr society ’sexualizing’ the youths, not a good thing.
You’re doing a good thing. If you give kids overconfidence they turn into Paris Hiltons.
On the other hand, it’s important to make her feel sexy at that age since her body is going through changes – but teach her that she doesn’t need those silly things to do it.
It shouldn’t matter what kind of undergarments she wears unless she’s planning on letting other people SEE her in them (not including gym class).
Thong swimsuits on the other hand are disgusting unless you have a near flawless body. Even then it makes butts look enormous.
First of all, I don’t know why anyone would want to wear “butt floss.” Regular panties are more comfortable. But maybe there is more going on here. My guess is that she wants to fit in with her peers, and this would make her feel like she is. I am troubled with how society has “sexualized” our children at such an early age. That is part of the peer pressure, I suppose. It is hard to answer your question specifically because we don’t know your daughter, and we don’t know her situation. My short answer is, “don’t sweat the small stuff.” The important thing isn’t what she wears under her jeans. What is important is her character development. That you are raising her to be a level-headed, responsible, adult. Where she knows the difference between right and wrong. It is more important that she have good morals, and know how to select the right friends. Get my drift?
no ur not im 13 wanted to get a thong but i learned that they are very unhealthy i guess i liked them bc they always were colorful and cute
Well call me old fashioned too! When my daughter was a teen, she wanted to wear these and the store clerks were on her side saying that thong panties are necessary to prevent showing a panty line under slacks. My opinion was and is “So what? Now everyone knows that you are wearing panties. GOOD!” There are other ways to deal with this issue if it really bothers you.
Yes, I think you are being a little old fashioned. She is a teenager now. Let her have fun. It’s just underwear, it’s not like anyone is going to see them. Be thankful she is not smoking (or worse, smoking pot) or drinking, or doing drugs. Right?
I agree, if a person is too young to be sexually active they are too young to dress to be sexually attractive.
I dont believe that it involves being “old fasioned” . You should probably let her get what shes comfortable with. (Undergarment wise). But the point is that it is underneath, so why does it matter?
My personal opinion, is that i dont like thongs as underwear, they are not always as confortable. but in certain situations, they do make good swim suits.
I’m glad you added panties to your question because being Australian there is nothing wrong with wearing thongs on your feet at whatever age you are.
I’m 22 and don’t have any kids but I think that 13 is too young to be wearing a “thong”. When you’re 13 you are still a kid not an adult and not a sexual “thing” in the eyes of others. So I don’t think you are being old fashioned just looking out for your daughter and trying to teach modesty in an unmodest world.
I think mother’s do have a duty to teach their daughters a sense of modesty when they are at the age that your daughter is and maybe up to the age of 16. The way some young girls dress where I am from and I’m not talking just about teenage girls but younger ones eg 10 year olds wear the most skanky looking clothes. And I just think that is just so not necessary. And then you think who buys them the clothes, mother’s usually and they don’t dress much different.
Wearing thong panties doesnt mean she’s going to start having sex. If it makes her feel sexy and good about herself let her wear it. Feeling good about oneself could translate into better life experiences. Nobody is going to see it anyway. Just explain to her she’s too young to have sex.
you are right, that is a mother’s responsibility.
yep you are at that 13 y/o is a time when kids need and want mommy to stop dressing them . you clamp down too much and she will rebel in other ways some which you dont want , heck i had a freind whos mom wouldnt let her use tampons till she was 17 was stuck using pads instead .she will be ok if you lose some of the old fashioned ways with her
allow her 2 wear 1-2 a week then as she gets older she can wear them more often
well as a teenager, i think you are being to modest, thongs dont leave pantie lines, simple as that, they are not going to be seen anyway right??!! let her wear them, its not like she is going to be turned into a slut or something just bc of her underwear.
As a guy a topic of discussion caught my attention one morning on the local FOX morning news, they said that many women/girls that wear thong panties are more prone to getting vaginal infections, (yeast, bladder) Im not sure which for sure,, just they did mention it,, might be a good thing to check into
hey there, i dont think your being old fashioned at all. You are the mom and you know what the world is like. It’s not like it was when we were 13, It’s gotten far worse and so have the people, the style of dress and the attitudes of the young people. Encourage your kid to still be a kid and not always having to go with what everyone else is doing.
It’s just a shame some of these young ones in the media are always focused on their lack of underwear at all. In my opinion, even though it is just underwear and hopefully no one else is seeing it, it still should matter what it is. Young girls who are wearing these may get the “sexy” mentality even if its a part of clothing no one else can see, and that could possibly lead to their conduct.
If she’s only 13, obviously she was just 12 years old recently, if its a thong at 13, what will it be at 15 or 16 ? You’re doing good as a mom, stand firm, she may be irritated or mad, but in the long run I think you’re doing the right thing.